"My mom, for the longest time, was not capable of seeing me as a separate entity, which i think is a beautiful thing on one level. It means you love me so much, you love me like yourself but what happens when you don’t love yourself? What happens when your self-esteem is not so high? How are you loving me then? You’re my parent and I’m reliant on you to provide me with certain things but if you can’t provide those things for yourself, how can you provide them for me? A lot of people have children and they don’t understand that having children is not something you just want, it something you ready yourself for. You take care of yourself so that you can have a child, so you can give something to a child."